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TAKE CONTROL - FROM THE START! AND KEEP IT!

Taking control is what you're good at. That's what you do. Build a façade, construct a screen, be who you want to be, as long as you put yourself across in a way that your boundaries and barriers are clear - and the client knows not to screw you around! Negotiate with confidence. Make your negotiations clear. Set the terms - make sure they're understood. Say what they can and can't do and what you will and won't allow. You have the right to set limits about touching or sexual behaviour. Everyone's limits are different. If someone has reached your limit, tell them quickly and clearly. Take the money up front and at the start. If there's no evidence that they can pay, they're probably planning not to pay. Make sure you're playing by the same rules! Don't do jobs when you're so out of it that you lose control. Stay on top of the action. Don't put yourself in a position where you can be pinned down. Be cool, calm and in control - if you're not, act as though you are. And remember, there's a big difference between rape and a rape fantasy!

IT'S NOT OVER TILL IT'S OVER!

Don't relax after the job's done - that can be the time he'll assault you. Relax after he's gone!

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